Comments on: Problems related to baby-sitter and child-care.?

By: Charlotte B

Charlotte B — Sat, 29 May 2010 07:17:23 +0000

I would find another alternative carer. It’s not worth the risk.

By: mustang speedfreak

mustang speedfreak — Sat, 29 May 2010 07:05:04 +0000

Trust your child, and put her first. If she says that something is happening, then more than likely something is going on. Its better to be safe than sorry. To many child are hurt because parents ignore what their child are telling them.

** My brother was abused when we were in a church daycare. He was too little to tell us what was going on, but his behavior changed. He would scream for me, which he never did till we went into daycare. That was the sign to my mother that something was wrong. We never went to another daycare, instead my grandparents kept us.** Due to my experience I will never put my kids with someone other than my family for childcare.**

By: Kristin R

Kristin R — Sat, 29 May 2010 06:20:11 +0000

Unless your daughter is known to make up stories I would say
that there is something going on there that is upsetting her. The best advice I know to give is that if you have any doubts at all get her out of there.

By: Hello

Hello — Sat, 29 May 2010 06:14:54 +0000

My mom babysat for 30 years and is wonderful with kids. I’ve seen many children come and go within that time and a good percentage have difficulties watching thier parents leave even when then they have so much fun at my moms. She has had tons of over protective parents that of course would accuse my mom of anything and everything that came out of the child mouth, which most of the time ended up being lies or the child mis-understanding. Not to say that they’re aren’t bad baysitters out there just be sure to have solid proof (not what your 2 year old says) before you go accusing her. You could really offend her and end up loosing a good babysitter.

By: Summer S

Summer S — Sat, 29 May 2010 05:36:01 +0000

I was in a very similar situation…. a couple of times. First time, the daycare provider TOLD me that she was locking my then-four month old in a room because she was “crying too much.” Now, by baby had a gentle temprement and good manner, so it struck me odd that my sweet little baby started crying all of the time for no reason. And it was worse when I took her to daycare. I would pull up, ring the doorbell, she would hear the babysitter’s voice, and go into screaming fits. Like she was terrified. I asked the babysitter later on and she told me. My daughter was immediately removed and I felt terrible for not taking the babysitter to task sooner.

Second situation: new babysitter. She’s fantastic! Her kids, however, not so much. The older two (who are about 8 and 10) would push my 3 year old around. Now this didn’t happen then first time she went to daycare there (because she was little and dependent on everyone… she started there at about 4 months old and I took her out at 3 because she is in a pre-k program). Anyhow, my husband and I decided to send her back at 3 1/2 because she is going to school half days and my husband needed time to actually WORK at his office (he was taking her to work with him). So, she started going back about two days a week. Sitter is still fantastic! But because my kiddo voices her own opinion now, and is (sort of) pushy when those kids are pushy, they started being very mean to her. Not sharing, hitting, biting, you name it. And I’m sorry, I will believe my daughter ANY DAY over what another kid tells me (unless I have concrete evidence).

THe point of this is to trust your instincts. If your gut tells you that something is awry, then it more than likely is. See about getting a new sitter. Until then, take your sitter to task about it. Contact your local SRS office as well (to see if that sitter has been reported before). The first sitter I told you about, well, I called SRS to see if she had been reported before. Turns out she had. For very similar situations (as mine) AND child abuse AND child neglect! She lost her licensing, but found a loophole and had her business name under another person’s. The saddest thing about that whole situation is that she’s suing me because I didn’t pay for my daughter’s last week of childcare. I had a contractural agreement with her. And she won. I am stuck paying her court costs and the owed daycare now. It’s $1200. $1200 for a woman who locked my baby away and treated other babies like crap? Not fun. But, I can’t go to jail, so I’m paying. Like my baby did.

TRUST YOUR GUT.
Hope this helps.

By: rcpeabody1

rcpeabody1 — Sat, 29 May 2010 05:31:31 +0000

You can certainly talk to the sitter about discipline and find out what her philosophy is. I would tell her I don’t want her to spank, hit, or whack my kid and after you’d discussed it, see if you’re even comfortable leaving your daughter there.

The boys may well not be doing anything really bad, but they play differently than she does and they’re just not interested in a 2 y/o girl. I wouldn’t be crazy about having them around my child to tell the truth. A vulnerable little girl and a curious pre-teen aren’t a good mix.

I was very unhappy with ds’s child care when he became a toddler. We were fortunate that we were able to hire someone at home to watch him. I’ve always felt more comfortable with bigger “centers” in general, though, because there are lots of people around and parents in and out, hopefully keeping things safer…

Anyway, best of luck. Child care is a huge, scarey headache. I hope you’ll find a better situation for your daughter.

Christie

By: lindailarson

lindailarson — Sat, 29 May 2010 05:17:15 +0000

Switch her. My last daycare, my kids cried when we dropped them off for months. Not abusive, just boring. Our new one, they cant wait to get there at ages 1 and 2 1/2. Wished we would have done it sooner.

By: J

Sat, 29 May 2010 05:01:37 +0000

Has she been around other older kids before? She might be upset because she’s adjusting to change. Keep an eye on it and if you feel she’s genuinely unhappy, change sitters.

Ask her how the babysitter gives her a whack. Get her to show you. Then you can better guage what she means by that comment.

By: amberlicious81

amberlicious81 — Sat, 29 May 2010 04:40:55 +0000

kids sometimes make things up if they don’t like someone, my daughter use to throw up at daycare and tell us that the daycare lady made her throw up (like literally, sticking her finger down my kids throat) it was annoying cuz I knew she was lying, when in fact she didn’t like going over there cuz she made them take naps and my daughter wanted no part of it. we ended up finding a new day care and she loved it. You should talk to your babysitter and tell her hitting or spanking is not what you do to your kid and please don’t do it. If your daughter truly hates it there find a new babysitter, or better yet a daycare where they actually teach and spanking isnt allowed

By: miatalise12560

miatalise12560 — Sat, 29 May 2010 04:16:44 +0000

If you are uncomfortable, then find another sitter or a YMCA that provides childcare….when my 2 1/2 year old son said the baby sitter slapped his hand for touching the remote (she had a 3 year old and a 2 year old at home) I quickly found another sitter.